Autumn and the virus is still with us!
I am aware that many of you are tired and perhaps now alarmed at the news from the government that the next six months may be difficult.
For some home is comfortable maybe they have space, a garden and family around them. Heading towards winter gardens are not so attractive. But for some there is not a garden. Maybe their home is too small and there are too many people in that home. For some relationships are strained or stressful. So many of you are distressed at this limitation of social contact, as most of us need social life and people. And for some there is the fear for a vulnerable family member far away or a vulnerable family member at home and the effort is to keep them safe. For many there is the fear of losing their jobs which is so real and frightening.
We all have to find our own way of surviving this. And as with critical times of year - Christmas, holidays and so on, when tensions arise and cracks in relationships are revealed, or perhaps it is our feelings about the way our life is going that shock us.
So this why I and many of my colleagues are offering counselling through the internet, by video or audio as talking can help - particularly at this difficult time when such a major change is happening not only in our live but in the whole world.
How we feed and nourish our bodies matters especially at this time. The food or what we put into our bodies can make us feel good or not so good - or in the case of alcohol and some mind altering substances makes us feel good then makes us feel bad.
Exercise - there is more and more proof that exercise is helpful both for our general health and for our mental health. Exercise can make a difference to depression and exercise can alleviate it to some degree. So perhaps we need to think of ways to exercise particularly when many sports are limited
Sleep, and of course some are having difficulty sleeping at this time but - as with exercise there is more evidence about the value of sleep and getting enough sleep.
Finally - back to talking, counselling - therapy call it what you will. What it is, is two people, one person listening with the sole object of helping the other person and not judging - this is important to understand. As a counsellor I am not here to judge you. And that should give you the freedom to express whatever you are feeling, knowing the you are in a safe place.
This is where and when the miracle can happen. The person who is listening finds a way to help the person who is talking understand what is troubling them. S/he finds a way to assist that person who is talking - to find their way to recovery and healing.
To be a counsellor is a privilege and I am grateful to those people who have shared with me and who have allowed me to walk some of the way with them on this journey called life.